Day 1711

Wednesday, September 20, 2017


Day 1710

Tuesday, September 19, 2017


Day 1709

Monday, September 18, 2017


Day 1708

Sunday, September 17, 2017

I had zero energy today and did very little except watch football.  I tried to clean up but I had no motivation and energy to do much of anything.  It was frustrating, but I just dealt with it and rested.  My fantasy football team managed to build a nice lead and the Seahawks managed to win without scoring a touchdown.  The Raiders also won.

In the evening, I watched the first episode of the Ken Burns documentary The Vietnam War. 


Oh boy, it's going to be really intense and hardly uplifting, but important to experience.  I was so tired by 9 I was falling in and out of sleep, but after the program and just as I was ready to go to bed, another interesting PBS show called Soundboarding started.  It's about music producers and was so interesting I ended up watching it, staying up until 11:30.  I'd pay for it tomorrow.

Day 1707

Saturday, September 16, 2017

Busy all day, starting at 6:15 a.m. with a phone call from Dorian.  He needed help moving all the meat from Delma's night club (Geofffrey's) to the party at Adonal Foyle's house. 

I did my own shopping at Safeway at 8, then met Dorian at 9.  We hauled the bins of lamb and chicken to his car, then drove over to Orinda to unload.  That took longer than expected.  I then went to Costco in Concord, came home, then went back to Orinda to help D set up for our racquetball party.

Adonal has a beautiful house with a separate pool house that has a massive TV, a bunch of comfy chairs, a full bar and a pool table.  The outdoor pool just outside is also beautiful.  The party got in gear around 3 and Dorian, Steve Basham and I stayed until 3 a.m. playing poker with pieces of candy.  There was so much food it was ridiculous.  Dorian is the GMG, the Grill Master General!


His BBQ skills are off the hook.  He had six different items going: lamb, ribs, chicken, salmon, oysters, shrimp. 

Adonal took everyone on a tour of his house.  He has a magnificent art collection and is extremely well read.  I really like Adonal.




The food table was so crowded with dishes we had to stack trays on top of each other.  To me, that's a sign of a winning party!


Day 1706

Friday, September 15, 2017


Day 1705

Thursday, September 14, 2017


Day 1704

Wednesday, September 13, 2017


Day 1703

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Up at 6:05, work was non-stop.  Came home and continued updating my Quicken files. 


Also got a new A string for my silent violin.  I'm practicing again and will join the Oakland Civic Orchestra in November.  The first piece I'll play after my 30-year absence from orchestra life is Mahler's 4th Symphony.  I can't wait!

 

Day 1702

Monday, September 11, 2017

16 years ago today...it's hard to believe it's been 16 years.

Busy day at work.  Came home to my new Quicken Premier 2017, so nerd that I am spent hours setting up a new budget that I can apply for 2017 and beyond.  I have everything automated so that 401k funds and Roth IRA funds come out automatically.  I'm probably wasting $2k or so per year because I haven't been using a budget in a while.  When I do, it works.  Gwen interviewed for a position in San Mateo so she might be living nearby.  To bed early.  Almost at 100%

Day 1701

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Up at 3, then to bed at 5 and up again at 8.  I got my haircut, took care of a few things at Alice's then came home and took care of more tasks.  It was a quiet, enjoyable day.

Day 1700

Saturday, September 9, 2017


I spent the day organizing some stuff, looking over wedding websites, looking at pictures (lots of them), listening to songs to add to playlists, and before I knew it the day was done.  14 hours goes by so quickly.  Oh, I also spent some time catching up on the blog.

Day 1699

Friday, September 8, 2017

I was pretty sore today after the 10 games I played last night.  Work was reasonable.  I had a meeting with Howard Ashcroft and two attorneys re their IPD documents.  Donnelly and Alan B. are taking over Kym and Dan's duties.  I don't see any big issues down the road.  I came home at 6, had a sandwich for dinner, talked to Gwen at 8, then went to bed for the night.  I'm really looking forward to an easy, carefree weekend. 

Day 1698

Thursday, September 7, 2017

Tonight was our first league singles night of the season.  We have 16 players in this league, which is a lot.  Tonight, only 11 showed up.  I went 5-5, which was decent enough, considering I'd been sick all week.  There are six morning players in the league and 10 evening players.  Our goal is to have all six morning players occupy the top six playoff spots, leaving just two for the evening players.  Glenn couldn't play tonight, but the five morning players secured the top five spots.  I love it!  We'll see what happens in week two.


Day 1697

Wednesday, September 7, 2017

The Indian wedding chapter of my life feels officially closed now that Gwen has left with her belongings.  Life is good without this wedding hanging over all of us.  Now G&G can get that damned divorce and move on with their lives.  Work was fine and coming home to an empty apartment was lovely!  Life is good!

Day 1696

Tuesday, September 5, 2017

This was my first day back at work and I felt pretty good, though my stamina wasn't with me.  I came home and Gwen had accomplished a lot, getting auto insurance, health insurance, and responding to a couple of job offers in San Jose and San Mateo.  With her experience in the kitchen design industry, she'll get a job in no time.  From now on, it's all about Gwen staying focused and thinking only about her life and her work.  She's easily distracted.  We had another nice night together.  We watched The Trip to Italy tonight and it was just as enjoyable the second time.



Day 1695

Monday, September 4, 2017

I felt better this morning -- each day stronger -- and had the morning to do a load of wash and tidy up before Gwen arrived at 1:45 p.m.  It was a very quiet, low key afternoon.  We went to Whole Foods, but it was so crowded we took the party to Safeway.  We bought a bunch of vegetables, waters, Kraft Dinner, pickled artichoke hearts, anything that looked good.  That was enough fun for me for one day, so when we came home I crashed on the couch.  I re-visited The Trip and learned there's now a third film, The Trip to Spain, which I'll be seeing soon.  I can watch this film every year and not get tired of it.



Day 1694

Sunday, September 3, 2017

Gwen flew into SFO this afternoon and stayed at the SF Westin in order to give me an extra day to rest.  I really needed it.  Every day I'm feeling better and should be ready to return to work on Tuesday.  I'm glad I have tomorrow off.  I did one load of wash and cleaned the kitchen.  That was about it for me today.

Day 1693

Saturday, September 2, 2017

This was my fourth day of feeling sick.  At least my fever's gone down.  At least I can move around.  I still wasn't able to do much but watch TV.  This virus really took it out of me.

I heard updates from Gwen about the DC wedding events and she wasn't having a good experience. She never should have flown to DC on her own.  Talk about Indian wedding overload.  From all accounts, Gwen was not at her best and was done with everything.  She flies back tomorrow.  Hopefully, I'll have my place ready for her by then.

Day 1692

Friday, September 1, 2017

Still very sick, but at least I was able to watch some television.  I ended up plowing through Master of None on Netflix.  I really enjoyed this series.  I watched both seasons.  Very entertaining, well written, funny and memorable.  The characters are endearing and funny.  I can't wait for season 3!


Day 1691

Thursday, August 31, 2017

Even worse today.  Total misery.  Nothing but sleep in bed.

Day 1690

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Stayed home sick.  Did nothing.  As in absolutely nothing except sleep, or try to.  Fever, aches, a nasty virus from India.  Ugh!

Day 1689

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

I was sluggish all day and knew I wouldn't be in to work tomorrow.  I came home, bought some soup from Trader Joe's and went right to sleep.  Not good.

Day 1688

Monday, August 28, 2017

The flight home was very long.  It just never ended.  I slept a little from Chennai to Singapore, but not so much from Singapore to San Fran.  I had a two-hour layover in Singapore.  The flight was uneventful.  I just watched two Alien movies and several episodes of Westworld.





We flew into SF at 9 a.m.  Customs was a breeze and I was at work within the hour.  I plowed through the day and felt pretty good after showering.  I caught up on emails, took care of a few projects that hadn't been completed, then came home.  I unpacked, had a small bite to eat, then went to bed.  I woke up at midnight and couldn't go back to sleep.  Ugh.  I also felt a bad tingle in my throat.  Not good.  I drank some of that nasty Chinese tea, hoping it would make me feel better.  I think I could some nasty sickness in India.

Day 1687

Sunday, August 27, 2017

It was another full day of wedding stuff in Chennai, starting with the long ceremony that was scheduled to begin at 8 a.m.  It didn't actually start until past 9:30.  There were different stages to the event.  It began in the lobby of the hotel, then went up to terrace on the 8th floor, then back at the lobby where Mathew and Rathna swung on a bench while the women in the wedding party washed their feet.  Finally, we took the proceedings to the main ball room where the chanting priests did their thing again for a few hours.  It was really long and beyond anything I've ever seen, but we were all expecting it so it wasn't so bad.  By noon, I needed to check out.  I cleared out my room, took my things to Gwen and Nicole's room and checked out in ten minutes, missing nothing in the main ballroom.  The chants and ceremonies continued another 45 minutes until it was time for lunch.











After lunch, I took a short nap, then came back down to the lobby just in time to get one last picture with Mathew and Rathna.  They hadn't eaten lunch yet, so Nicole and I sat at a table with the Prince and Princess and Rathna's parents while they ate.







Nicole and I asked to leave the compound to go to the mall about 15 minutes away.  A driver was reserved for us and we left some after with Greg, who joined us.  It was a nice excursion through Channai.


We went to Starbucks and got a couple of souvenirs (I got a mocha...it was good!).  We came back to the Hilton about 90 minutes before the wedding reception.  I got dressed and hung out with Gwen and Nicole in their room.  My flight left at 11:45 p.m., but I needed to leave the hotel at 9.  The reception began at 7, so I had a good two hours to eat, hang out, watch the Prince and Princess cut the cake, then say my goodbyes.












Day 1686

Saturday, August 26, 2017

We had breakfast at the same place at 6 a.m.  When had made the decision to participate in everything today and promised to behave herself.  She was told she wasn't allowed to say anything negative about Mathew, Greg or anyone else and she agreed she would be fine.  And she was.  The day went off without a hitch.

After breakfast, we all drove about ten miles away to an apartment where priests chanted and asked the ancestors to bless the wedding party.  The event was full of ritual, incense, offerings, chats, and an Indian meal afterward on a banana leaf.

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The Prince and the Princess

Nicole, Rathna and Rathna's sister Rupa




Lunch on a banana leaf

After the ceremony, the women had their hands painted while I went to my room to nap.






I was only planning to sleep for an hour, but I ended up sleeping three hours and woke up just in time for Mathew's procession by horse to meet his future father-in-law.  The ceremony took place in the Hilton parking lot and features drums, chants, songs and people dancing around Mathew.  It was definitely a spectacle but lots of fun.  We circles the hotel for 30 minutes, then made our way back inside for another ceremony in one of the Hilton meeting rooms.












Next came a 90-minute ceremony featuring the two families together with the priests and music in a colorful setting.  After the ceremony, we had dinner, then played a few dance games before I cut out for bed.  I was so tired by the end of the day, but only slept for a few hours before waking up again at 2 a.m.  Jet lag is awful.









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